The D/s Connection

BDSM has been a lifestyle, a passion, and a sexy hobby of mine for the past six years of my life. Within that time- both in my personal life and here at LDW- I’ve gotten to explore so many in-depth fetishes and fantasies that I consider myself a completely satisfied Mistress most of the time; but at the end of the day, I will always be wanting more;) After some time of getting to know each other on a friendly level, I’ve recently begun training a new personal submissive- and connecting with him has reminded me of so many beautiful facets within a D/s connection. The point is that connecting with each other is where it all begins, and that’s something worth talking about ;)

Person to Person

You know the feeling- looking into someone’s eyes, talking with them for a whole of ten minutes and you feel like you’ve known them forever. The way your spine tingles when you accidently bump elbows because of that split second of skin on skin contact. On my calls, it might be a gasp in your breath in reaction to something I say, or the way my voice melts into you that brings us deliciously closer. Things like this don’t only happen in the vanilla world- and I think that’s because for many of us, we like to connect with a potential playmate as a person first, and as a sub or Domme secondly. I personally consider this to be BDSM foreplay- to get to know a man’s personality, uncover his desires, and learn his limits; to set the groundwork for a trusting relationship so he can give himself to me a little bit at a time . . . until I own him entirely. That vulnerability is a very sexy thing, and it sets the stage for many kinky scenes to come.

Mistress to submissive

Although I have lots of fun corrupting new submissives on my calls, most of the playmates I’ve had in my personal life had already explored BDSM to a degree. Because of this, “starting slow” with someone tends to be a relative process. That said, the fact is that the sexual tension you feel as I explore the darkest corners of your mind is only going to further your submission to me. Playing with my new sub has certainly whet my appetite for enjoying that tension with my playmates and submissives here; because what starts as a person to person connection will inevitably become something much kinkier and sexier along the way.  The best part of a long term D/s relationship is the journey of becoming the best submissive you can be to your Mistress- and it all starts with a humble “hello” ;)

What are your thoughts on the D/s connection and the intimacy that surrounds it? Share in the comments.

XOXO- Mistress Marilyn


Finding Mistress Marilyn

Oh where oh where has Ms. Marilyn been, oh where oh where has she been? Well, now that I have that song stuck in your head for the next few days, I’ll quit teasing and tell you what’s up- aside from your cock ;) After my beautifully kinky birthday fun, technology decided to bite me in the ass- and taking my flogger to the laptop wasn’t going to help. I teased a couple of cute and shy computer geeks with my cleavage to get things back up and running, but I’ve also been taking time away to keep up with my figure skating before the rink closes for maintenance, and train a new submissive who’s adored watching me and my teensy skating dresses flutter around the ice! You’ll hear more about him next week- for now, let’s talk about how to get in touch with me just when you think I’ve mastered my disappearing act ;)

Marilyn_2My Schedule

Have you been getting all worked up by reading my blog and thinking about all the sexy Femdom fantasies you could explore with me? If you’ve been wanting to session with me, my Schedule Page is your go-to source of information for my availability, and how you can make an appointment with me if my availability doesn’t match up with yours. My summer has entailed lots of kinky fun (and promises of more fun to cum) so I most likely won’t be back to a regular schedule until fall- but, I do update my schedule page daily with the hours I plan to be available, or if I won’t be available that day. This way, you can always check to see if I’ll be around to tease you senseless!

Contact Me

You may have noticed that I have a couple of new pages on my blog to help you get in touch with me. I like to keep in touch with my submissives and playmates not only because I love to tease; but because this also makes it easier for us to set up sessions and chat in between our calls about ideas for future fantasies. Most importantly, it allows me to maintain a level of intimacy with my submissives- and I believe that intimacy and trust are key factors in developing a D/s relationship and exploring the depths of your submissive desires. You can visit my Contact Me page to find out about all the ways we can keep in touch; and you can also check out my Instant Messaging page if you’d like to chat on Yahoo Messenger before our session ;)

Have a Kinky Week, and we’ll see what sexy thoughts I have on my mind for next Weeks’s post!

XOXO- Mistress Marilyn


A Mistress Birthday Spanking

Happy Monday, Kinksters! As some of you may have noticed, I took a long weekend for my Birthday Celebrations- and that means that I’ve lots of kinky fun while I’ve been away ;) I am a Mistress who believes in sharing, and I’ve been all too excited to share the naughty details about my Birthday Spanking! I know- right now you’re having trouble taking your eyes off that bodacious booty of mine; thinking about just how adorably it must have bounced for those 24 birthday smacks! I’d hate to burst your bubble, but this was after all, a Mistress Birthday Spanking- which means there’s no way in hell I was the one getting spanked ;) As is my annual tradition, I have a long time playmate of mine who adores giving into his masochistic desires to take that birthday spanking for me- and this year, I just had to get a little bit creative  . . . .

Smacks 1-14

MarilynIt was delightful to have him strip for me again; uncovering those gorgeous biceps of his, those washboard abs- pale skin that looked far too tempting to redden up, and a throbbing hard on to tease. I have no doubt that my choice to slip into a tight black catsuit and lace into my underbust corset helped with the teasing, although the thigh high, stiletto boots may have helped too ;) Once he was undressed, I took a seat and had him crawl to the implements cabinet- bringing me my small wooden paddle and my leather flogger between his teeth, and gently dropping the toys into my outstretched palms like a good subbie ought to. I had him stand up while I uncrossed my legs, and patted my lap for him to drape his body over mine- and that’s when my fingertips got to work, swirling over and rubbing his sweet cheeks to warm them up nicely. For the first four smacks, I started light with a cupped hand and the perfect flick of the wrist to make his cheeks bounce; enjoying how breathless he became as he counted “One, Thank You, Mistress” and so forth. He wriggled deliciously from smacks five to fourteen as I began to put some muscle into my swing- my hand landing against his flesh with a piercing crack that resonated through the room. He was quivering for me; his body just beginning to relax into that steady endorphin rush when I reached over to the wooden paddle.

Smacks 15-24

As much as I adore OTK spanking, there is something about the sound of a wooden paddle against a bare bottom that I find insanely hot- and it was about time for this spanking to get even hotter! My hand gently cupped his cheeks to feel the developing warmth, before gripping my paddle and aiming right for the sweet spot. His counting got even more breathless; his voice becoming deeper and more primal with every crack against his ass. I told him to brace himself when we got to 20, and let him know that this spanking was about to get much harder as we approached that magic number. He tried so hard not to squirm as I put more strength into the swing- and he seemed so relieved when we finally got to 24. Little did he know, I had one more smack in store for him . . . .

One for Good Luck

I pinched his ass and told him to stand up and bend over. A drop of precum landed on my floor as he did, and I traded in my paddle in favor of my leather flogger for the grand finale. Gripping the handle tight, I positioned my index finger for the perfect aim and held the tails in my left hand. The room was nearly silent; the only things to be heard were his breath and mine, with his heart thumping nice and hard in anticipation. This made the swish of the flogger cutting through the air sound glorious before the tails finally cracked against his left ass cheek hard enough to make him yelp. He took a sharp breath in before turning to face me, and falling to his knees. I let his head rest in my lap, stroking his soft hair and whispering to him: “I sure hope that spanking didn’t tire you out too much- you haven’t even begun your oral servitude for the night . . .”

Have you ever taken a Birthday Spanking for your Mistress? How much would you have enjoyed taking 25 smacks for me this year? Share in the comments! Lastly, I’m giving a shoutout to Tease Toy and Alice Wonder for making my birthday amazing this year- I am still glowing due to your awesomeness!

XOXO- Mistress Marilyn


Makeup for a Sissy Soiree- Part 2

Welcome back, Sissy Girls! The Sissy Soiree is approaching quickly- in fact, it’s this Saturday, June 28th from 7pm to 11pmEST! Princess Andi, Goddess Lilly and I will be broadcasting Live on Cock Radio with all your favorite girly tunes, letting you know who won the Swimsuit Contest and chatting with you in our Community Kink Adult Chat Room! Tonight, I’ll be continuing my sissified make up tips from last week- it’s time to grab the lipstick and add some color to that pretty face ;)

No Sissy is Complete without Blushing Cheeks

Sissy SoireeNow that you’ve got that complexion flawless, we’ll move on to the blush. I adore when my Sissy girls blush for me; whether it’s just from feeling pretty as their skirts flutter against their legs, or if it’s due to a bit of panty wearing and some feminization humiliation ;) Either way, adding some blush always makes that effect stand out more- and that tends to get a Mistress like myself all worked up!

I recommended a cream blush in my last post because it’s the easiest to use. In a pot, get a tinge of color on your middle and ring fingers and dab it over your cheekbones, smoothing the color in circles until it’s nicely blended. If your blush is in a tube, start with a pinprick of color and apply the same way. You might want to dust a light bit of powder over your cheeks to tone down the color a bit when you’re done- though the more you blush, the more pleased I typically am ;)

Feminized and Sultry Eyes

Looking to get that “Bedroom Eyes” look, sissy girls? It’s easier than you think. Head to your local drugstore, and pick up a three shade palette of powder shadow that works with your eye color. Bronzes, golds, and forrest/olive greens look gorgeous on brown eyes, and plum and lavender will look especially gorgeous on green eyes- as well as brown and blue eyes. My blue eyed beauties will also look great in steel and gunmetal greys.  Most of these palettes come in contrasting shades already, so once you pick a shade that works for you you’re already half way to gorgeous land ;) Pick up a black lengthening mascara while you’re at it.

You can dab and blend a light coating of concealer over your eyelids to make your eyeshadow pop a bit more. Next, take the rounded side of the applicator that comes with your eyeshadow and swipe it over your eyelids, and slightly over the line where your eyelid creases using the medium colored shade. Using the clean side of the applicator, pick up some color from the darkest shade, and sweep this within the crease of your eyelid- shaping it slightly where your eyebrow arches. Next, using the pointer side of the applicator, pick up your lightest shade of color and sweep it from the crease to right beneath your eyebrows. Apply your mascara in two smooth sweeps to your lashes, and blot any clumps with a fingertip. You might choose to use the pointed side of your eyeshadow brush to add a tinge of the medium shade just below your lashes, and then you can give the mirror and your Mistress that “come hither” look with a wink and a smile ;)

Pick your Pout: Ladylike, Glamorous, or Slutty?

It’s lipstick time, and we’re going to talk about color! My ladylike sissies might choose a lighter or natural shade of pink to compliment their eye make up, while my sluttier girls will be shameless with a bright fuchsia or a shade named “harlot red”. Spring for regular lipstick in a tube, and look in the range of shades that appeal to you. From here, see how the shades look when you hold them up against your skin, and find one that compliments it well rather one that looks horrifically garish. Next, decide whether you want classic, satiny lips or slutty cocksucking lips- and get either a clear lip balm or a shiny clear lip gloss to top off your color.

Applying your lipstick straight from the tube is the easiest- so just follow the shape of your lips with a slow and steady hand, filling in the color where you need to. Blot with a paper towel if it looks too heavy- though I know of a few of my girls who would rather blot their lipstick with a dildo, instead ;) For a matte look, use just enough lip balm over your color to keep your lips smooth- and for the shiny, porn star look, go crazy with the gloss as long as you keep it in the lines, girls!

I’ll look forward to seeing your gorgeous and sissified self at the Sissy Soiree this Saturday! Rumor has it that I will be hopping on for calls before the event to help you girls get ready. Be sure to check my Schedule Page on the 28th- and visit Princess Andi’s blog for additional tips on sissy lingerie!

XOXO- Mistress Marilyn


Makeup for The Sissy Soiree

Happy Monday, Sissies! In case you’ve missed the news, go grab your calendar and write this down- myself, Princess Andi, and Goddess Lilly are hosting a Sissy Soiree on Saturday, June 28th from 7pm to 11pmEST! We’ll be partying on Cock Radio and in the Community Kink chat room, and we’re accepting entries for the Swimsuit Contest until June 22nd- you can check out all the details about the contest in my last post ;) For tonight, your guiding light of feminine beauty is continuing her streak of prettying you up to the last detail for the upcoming Soiree! Now that we’ve covered lingerie and swimwear, it’s time to chat lipstick, powder, and blush (oh my!) to get that pretty Sissy face looking flawless ;)

I know a thing or two about looking beautiful ;)

I know a thing or two about looking beautiful ;)

A Work of Art Starts with a Clean Canvas

I know, Sissy Girls- it’s more fun being a girl when you’re working with color. The slutty lipstick, the smoky eyes and the blushing cheeks all add to the sexiness factor- but before you add the color, you’ll need to start with a fresh and flawless face! What you’ll need is a cream concealer, a cream blush, mineral or powder foundation and loose or pressed powder- and get a big, fluffy, flat brush to go with it. If you’re new to the world of makeup, you will need to buy in store. Matching your complexion from online swatches as a newbie is a fashion disaster waiting to happen. A sissy who craves humiliation can feel free to blush her ass off during a wordless purchase- and an incognito sissy can tell anyone who asks about the bet you just lost during your last drinking night with the guys ;) Look for a cream concealer in a tube, as these are easier to blend. Your mineral makeup will state what it is- it’s either “makeup” or “foundation”; whereas powder is just powder, pressed or loose. For blush, pick the shade closest to the natural flush of your cheeks. Match your skin tone by holding the product up to your arm and finding the closest shade possible. Now here’s what to do with all that ;)

The Perfect Sissy Face

Start by washing your face with lukewarm water to remove any oils without overdrying. Rub over any dry, flakey skin with a washcloth- gently, in circular motions, much like when you play with your sissy nipples for me ;) Look for flaws or discolorations on your face, and have your tube of concealer open with the wand at the ready! Dab a small amount over any pimples; a tinge at the sides of your nose, and about 3-4 dots beneath your eyes. Leave it be for about ten seconds- then blend using light taps from the tip of your middle finger. Keep blending until the spots disappear. For under eye circles, you can lightly run your finger back and forth so the concealer covers the area from the tops of your cheek bone to just beneath your lashes; then pat to smooth out any lines. Next, smooth a small dab of cream blush between the tips of your middle fingers, and apply it to your cheekbones, circling your fingertips to blend. Grab your makeup brush and get a light dusting of your mineral makeup, then swirl it over anywhere you applied concealer before evening out the rest of your pretty face! Finish up with a dusting of powder to set your complexion, and do take a moment to enjoy how the tickle of your powder brush makes your clitty twitch for me ;)

Next week, we’re going to chat about bedroom eyes and sissy cocksucking lips when we add some color to that pretty face of yours! Share your favorite sissy makeup tips in the comments, or let me know how your makeup practice is going. Don’t forget- we’re accepting entries to the Swimsuit Contest until June 22nd and the competition is getting fierce, girls. Get those entries in, and have a kinky week!

XOXO- Mistress Marilyn


A Sissy Swimsuit Contest


Welcome back, Sissy Girls! The Sissy Soiree is on June 28th from 7pm-11pmEST, and you just might have heard the rumors about a very sexy Swimsuit Contest being held at the event! I know my girls get all worked up looking fabulous for me- and what better an opportunity could there be . . . → Read More: A Sissy Swimsuit Contest


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Getting Caught Masturbating


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